All I Ask Of Everyone,
Find Ways To Be Happy.
As we all know happiness begins with you and ,often times along the way several people. Or even one.
Growing up in a home where you always heard the words “I Love You”, a hug and kiss often was so beautiful.
Growing up with our children I really tried hard to do the same. Yet to some unforeseen circumstances, things change. Feeling hurt, I had to learn to respect them and their wishes. Yet I always said I love you, even if I didn’t hear it back.
There is no right or wrong, their is no perfect when it comes to parenting or being an individual. Do your best, in the words of my parents and myself, be happy and most of all be healthy.
It doesn’t matter how old your children are, in my case distance or near I love them equally and only want the best for them and their families.
How Did My Mom Do It?
I often have sat here and asked myself this very question.
My mom always was organized, not just at home but in everything she did. If you had ever seen a woman more organized with the three of us girls you would have been shocked.
Hand sewn clothing (which she could have been a designer, creating her own patterns), made for us and set out for the next day. It was exciting.
Love Or Organized?
Truly love, in yet the one thing she said ,it was always important for my dad and her to have time as a couple. True soul mates. The one thing I did learn was take time for you, your health or you can’t be there for others.
Allow your children to find their wings, be a listener (I am working on that still to this day and struggling), remember life changes wether you accept it or not.
I have said that for years, yet I look at life for my family, their struggles and feel bad. I think we had it better. Or maybe not and just went with the flow.
Either way we can only hope for the best for our children and their family.
Another thing mom told me, step away and live life with your wonderful husband, enjoy life the best you can because it goes by way to fast. I totally agree.
I have made some bad choices in my life, I thought what I was doing was helping. Yet as I look at it now after several years, I made life complicated for those I love dearly.
So What Does One Do?
Always Love, even from a distance. Let those you love enjoy life and make their own decisions, their choices. You may have created them out of love, you will always love them. Bringing things to them, gifts etc may not be the answer because you cannot buy love.
What you thought was love, they may have looked at it as trying to control them. Or in cases judge them in the wrong way. I know I am not perfect, my husband said the same. We are no different then they are.
I am not a councillor, I have a councillor with my husband. We have endured pain in the worst way. Yet as we look at it, why didn’t we do it differently.
That’s what we are trying to do, always love. Learn to be better listeners.
I miss mom, my best friend. I realized that even more after she past. The two weeks I was with her and my dad before she left this world, she shared things with me that keep me going. Most of all beautiful memories and photos.
Below is the picture of my mom on our wedding day. Best day ever and I was so proud of mom for making my wedding gown! Designing it. Most of all how much fun it was.
Enjoy everyday to the fullest.♥️. Most of all, like us try to be good listeners.