Estranged Mom And Dad
This could never happen to us. Why would it, you tried your best. You truly loved your children. You did everything possible to give them a good life. Why on earth would your adult child or teen child distance themselves? Does distance make the heart grow fond?
I am a mom, no professional. I longed to be a mom after a few wonderful years of being married to my husband.
After working in a big office, I moved to a company where I trained many data word entry and the overall computer system. I knew in my heart it was time. (I also worked from home for a Computer Technologist doing all the accounting).
Feeling established, ready to be in a wedding that summer. My husband and I decided that soon after the wedding we would give it a try.
Well after two weddings, two years apart. We were blessed with two beautiful children.
From cloth diapers to homemade baby food. We did our best to go by the book, what was in our hearts and what did our parents do.
The easiest part was the moment they were born, falling in love. The moment you saw them, the moment you held them.
The toddler years were amazing. Watching them grow, learn and above all become the most adorable human beings ever.
“TIME”
Wow, who would tell you that time goes by way too fast especially when your parents? It’s like “baby” one day and “teenagers” the next.
As a mother a lesson I did learn is that things happen beyond your control.
Yet those things can and will affect the way of the future. You have no control.
In my teenage years, I wish I could have done a redo for myself. Also, I wish that could be the same for our adult children.
Growing into the person you hope to be, friends, schooling and most of all hanging out and having fun. All are very important so choosing the right things, can also be complicated.
You wonder why the parents worry? They only want you not to make the mistakes they may have made, or they only want the very best for you.
So kids (teens) etc, your parents can become a pain, but the bottom line is to try to communicate. Awareness of your feelings is so important. “You Matter.” Maybe sometimes you feel like you’re going to suffocate.
So why does a parent become estranged from their children?
They need the distance to be themselves, to find themselves and especially without judgement. (believe it or not) both parents and adult children need space.
Yet to be estranged can be heartbreaking.
A time set aside every so often to say hi, and have a coffee or a tea would be amazing. “How about a catch up”
Does the estranged parent or child need that?
We know we need that. Absence can be painful.
