Marriage: The idea of marriage, the beautiful engagement ring, the arrangements for the wedding. So much excitement: Will this be a thing we no longer hear about? Will living together with a certificate, confirming our love, be the way of the future?

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The traditional wedding that was once in the confinement of a church, temple or a place of worship. Now has come a long ways from the celebration of a couple being married, can be anywhere, even in a cornfield.

Weddings today do not always go by the traditional sayings of ,I promise to love you in sickness and in health. I promise to worship you in all of the days of my life. for richer or for poorer. Worshiping each other as a couple has changed in so many ways. Respect and love has not changed, yet when we have attended the many weddings over the last five years, at times we do not even hear these vows. Instead we hear vows made from the heart.

The last wedding the young bride said to her groom.

From the first day I met you, I knew you were the man who would share my life with me. Who would wake with me daily. Who would share dreams together and travel as we often spoke of. Today I am so blessed to become your wife and I cannot wait for our future to come.

The groom to his bride.

In high school, I always thought you were the prettiest girl in school. Today you are the most beautiful woman on earth. I am so honored to be the man that marries you and spends the rest of my life with you. You are my everything, you are my world.

Thinking back to the forty years ago, 375 guests in a large church. The words the minister asked us to repeat after him, looking into my grooms eyes, I met every word, we were going to make it. We made a full promise to follow exactly what the minister said.

Traditions Have Changed- Marriage Is Hard Work

To obey to many sounds like ,that of a pet. Those words told to me by a young girl who is about to get married. I will not fetch, I will not be given commands but I will love with all of my heart.

Interesting, I did not look at it that way. I personally felt honored to do things for my husband, to listen to him and share our feelings, My parents marriage lasted 62 years, they said a good marriage always consisted of communicating.

The Cost

Love conquers all. Its true, do you need a ring on your finger to prove it? For me yes, two gold bands that meant everlasting life together while we were both on earth. So formal, so traditional. Yet these were the ways that both of us were raised. Going to church was part of growing up.

The cost of weddings now a days is close to that of a wonderful down payment on a house. So than I really started to think. A home, a commitment at the justice of the peace. Maybe a few friends with dinner with family to follow.

That makes it so more understanding. Than as I have several family members who live together, and a certificate stating they are legally living together. They really love each other and they are happy.

Does it really matter?

To see a couple work hard and love each other, that is what is important. If it is not meant to be, I do suggest living together before they make a very big commitment. If you want to try to make it work, reach for help and see if it will. We are not always the same person who dates someone compared to the person who is living with you. Really getting to know each other takes time and patients.

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When the relationship crumbles to pieces and it is so hard to put back together. Than What?

If you are getting a divorce it is very expensive and painful. If you have children it is even more painful.

Is this why we see the change? A generation living together, being happy and doing their best to enjoy life.

Will the traditional weddings, disappear?

I hope not. Just remember, communicate and listen well. Do not jump into a relationship for the sake of loneliness. Become friends before dating. Most of all, always have something that you like to do, that they like to do. Of course date night for both of you.

I just hope that love never changes and some traditions can still exist. Everyone deserves to be loved.

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Cathy became an author at the age of 7. She has a passion of writing all genres. Loves to travel, take photography, crafts and learning new things.

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Cathy Deslippe

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Cathy became an author at the age of 7. She has a passion of writing all genres. Loves to travel, take photography, crafts and learning new things.

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